Okay, so I wanted to know if it’s normal for my mother to act like this. I personally don’t like it, but I want to know if I’m just being a whiny kid or if other people find it abnormal as well.
My report card came home yesterday, and after trying hard and bringing my grades up, I had an A in English and Spanish, an A- in Social Studies, and a B in Math and Science. First thing that comes out of my mom’s mouth when she sees the report card: “Well, the A’s are great and all, but why do you have a B in Math and Science? What did you do badly on? Why?” and as she said those words, my good mood simply floated away. Later that night she emailed all my teachers, asking why I don’t have an A or A+ in every class. My dad thought my grades were fine, good even, and so did all my friends and grandparents. I had a math tutor for one month. No, it wasn’t because my mom finally realized after 3 years that I’ve been struggling with math. She got me a tutor because she wanted me to get into advanced math! She had even said one day, after talking about advanced math, “I want this for you. I really want you to get in, and if you don’t I’ll be pretty disappointed and angry.” The fact that she didn’t listen to me telling her I was struggling for years also goes with this- I did a cartwheel and broke my wrist one day. I complained to her that it hurt, with her only telling me to “Suck it up and stop being a baby”. I also told her that I’d been to the nurse’s at school and they said that it looked swollen. Finally, after 2 days she took me to the doctor where he told me that I had broken my wrist. There are a few things that really hurt me though, like when she calls me a slob, stupid, dirty, a liar, a slut, a bitch, or a sneak. Also, sometimes if I’m on the phone with her and I say something she doesn’t like to hear, she’ll just hang up on me. Another thing that hurts me a whole lot is that whenever I apologize, she doesn’t believe me! I’ll spend 2 hours apologizing to her for even the smallest thing I’ve done wrong, and she’ll brush off my apologies, disregard them, or even sometimes throw a snotty remark back at me. One day, she woke me up by jumping on top of me while I was on my bed. I told her to get off, and she ran from the room, slamming my door behind me. When what had happened set in, I ran after her, crying and apologizing for 3 hours, and she never said she forgave me. I don’t know if this is just me, but also she seems to favor my little brother. She rarely gets angry at him, always takes his side, is always complimenting him and giving him hugs, is always buying him things, et cetera. The one thing she does get on him about though is his spelling test grades. He’s in second grade, and she always tells him on Friday morning (the day of his weekly spelling tests), “If you don’t bring home a 100, you have to sleep outside with no dinner.” The last thing that bothers me though, is that she is constantly on my facebook and AIM screenname! Almost every night, she goes onto my facebook multiple times, looks at my profile, all my friend’s profiles, and the bathroom wall. Whenever I’m on AIM and she comes into the room, she makes me scroll up on the IM so she can read the entire thing. Sometimes, she even tells me not to be friends with someone, and she doesn’t let me fight my own battles. She makes me call her every day after school on the bus home, and my friends have gotten really mad at me because I’m on the phone right after school! It really hurts when she doesn’t forgive me or she hangs up on me or insults me, in fact it hurts me so much that I usually start crying and getting really dizzy. Sometimes it even makes me have the urge to force myself to throw up or cut myself. The fact that she goes through my IMs and facebook makes me feel bad because I don’t think she trusts me enough to tell her about my social life. Whenever I try to talk to her about that sort of thing, she just says to me “You’re 13. I can do what I want with your stuff, shut up."
Sorry it’s so long, I just wanted to fit in all the details.
Also, she goes through my cellphone’s text messages and call logs constantly.
haha just for reference:
i’m not asian, my mom’s not asian.
we’re italian and from the south.

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